So it’s 7:30 pm and I’m at work waiting to be able to do the next part of my job today at 8 pm. So I thought I’d write my Thursday post. I just got to catch up on a bunch of my favorite blogs that I’ve had to neglect this last week because I’ve been so busy and can I just say, I have missed you guys! I can’t wait for work to die down a little (as the phone rings again haha) so that I can focus on my blog and YOUR blogs some more 🙂
I decided to make myself some popcorn to eat while I wait and now you get a special fact about Alyssa. I ALWAYS burn popcorn. Even if it’s just a tiny little bit. I always do. You would think it wouldn’t be that difficult to do it correctly but I just can’t explain it. The rest of my kettle corn was delicious though!
Today I took my last test! Woohoo! Who knows how it went, but man alive, who cares! I’m done! You’re probably confused as to why I’m in classes since I’ve already graduated, so I’ll briefly explain. I graduated two years ago and then last fall decided I wanted to finish the last couple of classes I had in order to complete prerequisites for physical therapy school, so I did that this school year. Luckily I have a job that is super great about it and worked with me to get those done! However, I don’t think I’ll be pursuing physical therapy anymore. I have discovered Health Coaching and that seems way more up my ally and something I would be super passionate about. So that is my next adventure.
That being said, let me just brag a little bit about my beautiful campus. I seriously live in one of the prettiest places in the world.
Remember how this morning (Wednesday) there was snow on the ground? Snow in the morning and gorgeous in the afternoon. Welcome to spring in good ol’ Utah!
I decided to sleep in this morning instead of working out and was able to wake up more rested than I’ve been in I don’t even know how long. Totally worth it. So as soon as I’m able to leave work I will be hurrying home to change and then go on my run. Tonight is a speed workout. 40 minute tempo run. Tomorrow morning will be 3 miles + strength. (I realize my tense is changing throughout this post. sorry. sometimes I forget that you’ll be reading this tomorrow. the current tomorrow. Thursday).
A friend of mine has another friend (I know! Besides me. Rude) who is in a very toxic relationship. The other day we were talking about it and I remembered I was going to do a wellness discussion on that very thing! Since I have also had to neglect my wellness discussion posts and I have a little bit of time now, I’m going to pick back up on them and keep it going with healthy relationships!
I’ve watched some of my friends going through romantic relationships that were downright terrible, family relationships cause severe anxiety and unhappiness and awful work relationships. It’s so important to have a health relationship with your family, your friends, your coworkers, hey! even with yourself! First we’ll start with 5 SIGNS YOU’RE IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP. (source)
- It seems like you can’t do anything right.
- Everything is about them and never you.
- You find yourself unable to enjoy good moments with this person.
- You’re uncomfortable being yourself around this person.
- You’re not allowed to grow or change.
If I may, I would like to add a couple of my own that I’ve witnessed in my friends going through these situations:
- You are always the one to forgive and “fix” the situation.
- You feel the need to hide things from them in order to not cause a fight (more than just being polite. you know the difference).
- You experience severe anxiety in relation to that person.
- You’re always making excuses for them and justifying incorrect behavior.
- You’re carrying the relationship.
But what does a HEALTHY relationship look like? I found a list of 50 Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship on “Psychology Today” and picked out some of my favorites. It refers to your “partner” but just think of this as the other person in the relationship, even if it’s not a romantic one:
- You see your partner as trustworthy.
- You enjoy the ways your partner has changed and grown since you met.
- Your partner is enthusiastic when something “goes right” for you.
- You frequently express appreciation for each other. (this can be done professionally)
- You respect your partner’s other relationships (with family, friends etc) and view them as important.
- You have a sense that it’s easy to get your partner’s attention if you’ve got something important to say.
This article was directed toward romantic relationships but I think there are definitely aspects listed that can be applied to any type of relationship. Again, I’m going to add some basic characteristics of my own:
- Mutual trust
- They inspire you to be a better you
- You are happy when you are around them.
- They support you and your goals, even if they don’t completely agree with them.
The point of any relationship is to be mutually beneficial. So make sure the ones that are in your life are enhancing your life and you are returning the favor. If they’re not good for you, don’t keep them in your life. It’s not worth it and you deserve better.
What is something you’re really bad at cooking?
What did you study in college? If you’re in college, are you close to graduating?
Discussion! Please add to my lists of characteristics of toxic and healthy relationships!